Some personal reflections.

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We go through many transits in our journey between birth and death. Our experiences and reactions to these experiences are different at each age of our journey. When I was in the transit of middle age, I was discontented with myself and the world much of the time.   In the two decades I traversed between the ages from fourty to sixty I experienced some very difficult lessons that changed me on every level. I am currently in my mid sixties and I am no longer discontented, nor unhappy. Quite the opposite in fact. So what happened? Well, I realized that attitude makes all the difference and direct experience is the greatest catalist for change. We get to choose how we react to what life gives us.

For your consideration, here are some insights that I picked up along the way:

~Life is a gift, not a given.

~Life is fragile. We all dangle by a slender thread over the void of eternity. This thread can snap at any moment, then you or someone close to you falls into the chasm and disappears from this dimension.

~Be grateful for every day that you have the gift of health, mobility, and all your marbles still intact .

~ Give love freely with no expectation that it will be returned. The same goes with appreciation. Just do it because it feels right to do so.

~Bad stuff happens and bad people exist. It is smart to be aware of the darkness and how to protect yourself.

~Know that good exists in all quarters as well. So cultivate a balanced, realistic view of both the light and dark sides of humanity.

~The act of living in the world eventually either makes you more brittle or more supple over time. You get to choose which by your attitude and actions.

~Happiness is a choice you make each day. Happiness makes life for both you and those around you much more enjoyable.

~The greatest gift you can give yourself is self love as this leads to a peace of mind and spirit.

~ Worry solves nothing: The world was here before you arrived and will continue long after you are gone so why waste time worring about things you have no control over…

~Lead by example without fanfare, hubris, or expectation of reward.

~Someday you will only be a memory in those you leave behind, ensure it is a good one.


©Janos Neder 2018